fat man with a soft looking beard sleeping in silky pyjamas

Have you ever wondered how to make your beard soft and how to reduce the effects of a beard that feels wiry and almost too thick?

When your beard lacks moisture it will become dry and brittle. To make your beard softer and less rough you need to make sure that your skin can produce the natural oils that moisturize your face. This is best done by reducing the amount of times you wash the beard, using a high-quality beard oil, and conditioning the facial hair.

Maybe it’s your girlfriend or wife who hates that rough beard brushing up against her face.

Or maybe you yourself hate the fact that your facial hair feels like barbed wire hugging your cheeks.

Whatever the case; we have provided you this smooth list of methods to naturally soften facial hair and make it silky again.

NOT by reducing its mass or making it look all patchy and weak, but by actually caring for the beard you currently have, without damaging or reducing its magnificence.

If you’re here for some fast answers, here are the quick facts:

  • The secret to a softer beard is sealing in moisture from showering.
  • This is best done by applying beard oil right after towel dampening the facial hair.
  • Follow up by applying beard balm 2-3 hours after the oil to further seal moisture.
  • Trimming occasionally prevents beard split-ends and helps keep the mane soft.

A coarse beard can be caused by many factors, but most often it’s a combination of poor beard care routine and just simply; a beard that grows super thick.

Other factors like the cold weather can also make previously soft beards turn into barbwire. Men who move into colder climates can often attest to this.

How to Make Your Beard Softer Naturally

1. Start with a Wash and Hydrating Conditioner

man using beard conditionerYour washing routine can either make or break your beard.

If you wash too often with a normal scalp-hair shampoo (common beard mistake), you are bound to dry out your beard, strip it from all the natural sebum oil, and over time, make your facial hair dry and itchy like a desert.

To soften your facial hair instead, consider starting from a simple trick of not showering too often, or at least not washing the beard too often.

Experts say that the healthiest and best-looking beard is usually a 3-day beard.

That’s a good rule of thumb to keep in mind, as you should be washing the mane 2-3 times per week at the maximum.

Almost as important as the frequency of beard washing, is the use of good quality beard shampoo and beard conditioner. These two lay the ground-work for your true beard softening potential.

The normal scalp-hair shampoo is chock-full of chemicals that can harm the beard growing hormones. It also powerfully strips the natural sebum oil from the skin, which isn’t ideal.

On the beard hair roots and the skin underneath, natural sebum oil is really important for maintaining the softness, while it also keeps beard dandruff at bay.

But what kind of beard washing products to look for?

You should look for washes and conditioners that are 100% free of harmful man-made chemicals and don’t contain any of the natural ingredients that may hurt the beard (some essential oils, for example, are known antiandrogens, you don’t want to use those).

2. Use Beard Oil Right After Washing

dropper bottle of beard oil

One good trick to do right after washing the beard for maximum softness is to apply beard oil to a facial hair that is still moist and only gently dampened with a towel.

This seals in the moisture and helps you maintain the soft beard feeling you normally have after the shower.

And really the original idea of beard oil was to replace the natural oils that you lose when washing the face.

So what better moment to apply it other than right after you hop out of the shower?

While there aren’t any specific beard softener oils, the best oil for making your mane silky smooth has to be jojoba oil.

The reason being that the eicosanoid acid in jojoba is closest to the natural sebum oil of the skin, while its also rich in vitamin E, which can help nourish the skin and prevent beard dryness.

What you should avoid are beard oils rich in polyunsaturated vegetable, nut, and seed oils (almond oil, canola oil, sesame oil, sunflower seed oil, safflower oil, etc). This is because polyunsaturated fat is prone to lipid-peroxidation, meaning that those go easily rancid on the skin when exposed to light, heat, and oxygen, which causes them to harden.

Which is why it’s imperative to use beard oils that have mostly saturated and monounsaturated oils in the mixture, like jojoba oil, castor oil, coconut oil, and argan oil.

3. Apply Beard Balm for Even Softer Beard Results

beard balm

Beard balm should be seen as a more nourishing and thicker form of beard oil.

To maximize the softness of your facial hair, consider using about a pea-sized chunk of beard balm 2-3 hours after you showered and applied beard oil.

This helps to create a protective waxy barrier on top of the already sealed-in moisture and beard oil that you used previously and helps to maintain the softness for several days afterward.

There are some products on the market which specifically state that they would be “beard softening moisturizer” or “softening balm”, but after looking at the ingredient lists, those offer nothing special that would make your beard softer than “normal” beard balms would.

In fact, most beard balms suck anyway, since they use polyunsaturated oils in the formulation, which eventually make your beard coarser through lipid peroxidation of the poor quality vegetable oils.

4. Trim the Beard to Remove Split Ends

man getting his beard trimmed

Like the hair on top of your head, the beard also is prone to split ends.

When your beard hairs are brittle and coarse long enough, they eventually fray.

Usually, this is a result of cold weather exposure, overuse of products, washing too often, blow-drying the beard with too high heat, and using damaging synthetic beard dyes.

Sometimes heated beard straighteners can also result in some beard damage which may result in more coarse beard hairs.

On longer beards, the natural production of sebum oil is rarely enough to moisturize the whole beard, so the ends get dry and brittle, and eventually produce a split end.

Aside from all the above pointers (oil, balm, quality beard shampoo, and conditioner) you can reduce and remove the split ends by occasionally snipping them off, aka. trimming the beard. This provides a beard softening effect that is pretty much immediate.

The best way to do this is with some quality beard & mustache scissors, and by using a beard trimmer that has sharp enough blades and plenty of power to neatly cut the mane without snagging or pulling (poor-quality trimmer and a bad job at trimming can increase, not reduce, the split ends).

5. Bad Beard Products Give you a Rough Beard

man with coarse and rough beard

I mentioned above how polyunsaturated fatty acids go rancid and harden up when exposed to light, oxygen, and heat.

This process is called lipid peroxidation.

Because of lipid peroxidation, oil-based house paints used the be made from vegetable oils back in the day.

The high number of polyunsaturated fat in them would react with oxygen, heat, and light, causing the paint to go “rancid” and stick & harden into the wall.

Sadly, many beard products use these same type of high PUFA oils, and your facial hair, it’s out there, prone to light, oxygen, and heat.

It doesn’t take long for them to go rancid (if not rancid already in the bottle) and harden up, hurting (not helping) the process of softening the beard.

This is not the only reason you should avoid all beard products manufactured from cheap vegetable oils.

So if you really want to make that beard softer, then consider getting beard products that are very low in PUFA and mixed with stable monounsaturated and saturated oils & fats.

This post is too short to explain all the details and compare oils in beard products, which is why you should look into our list of best beard products here.


Well, there you go. Some quick, simple, and natural methods to make your beard soft as silk.

Simply put, you can achieve the smoothest beard of your life by:

  • Showering with beard shampoo and conditioner.
  • Applying beard oil immediately after the shower.
  • Further moisturizing the beard by applying balm 2-3 hours later.
  • Trimming the beard occasionally to prevent split ends.
  • And avoiding poor-quality beard products.

That’s it. Thanks for reading and keep on beardin’.

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Ali is a published author and a beard grooming expert. To this date, his articles have been read more than 15-million times on various sites, and he has helped thousands of men make their beards look better and grow thicker. His work has been featured and cited in Seeker, Wikihow, GQ, TED, and Buzzfeed.


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